Biography
Hi, I am Rita Bliven.
I have written Canyons & Fireworks which details my life long journey of healing from an extreme avoidant attachment style.
Through encounters with God, faith, family, Christian community, reading books, and years of counseling I have learned to truly open up and enjoy loving relationships. From this place of healing and love I have been able to enjoy the abundant life of the Bible.
In Canyons & Fireworks, I am honest about the cause, confusion, victories, setbacks, and time full recovery takes.
Although I am not a doctor, my goal is to help others identify and tear down the walls that block love so that true intimacy, identity, and purpose can flourish.
I am happily married to my best friend, Rob, and I love being a stepmom. We live in a suburb of Charlotte, NC where we enjoy the outdoors together. I like to bike ride at my local parks and paint on my back patio.
Coming Soon...
My beautiful and talented sister, Adrian Lynn, designed the cover for my book. While this image is not yet approved for publication, I imagine, the final product will be similar.
Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins.
1 Peter 4:8
Hiding From Love
The Blessing
Do You Think I'm Beautiful?
Pride and Prejudice
Attachment Theory
Unconditional love is the basis of the most fundamental relationships; which helps form trust, identity, and gives the framework for future relationships. If initial bonding is disrupted the lack of connection can affect many facets of childhood and adult life.
Forty percent of the population is estimated to have a less than healthy attachment style. If you do not suffer from an insecure attachment, chances are someone you love does.
You may benefit from discovering your attachment style if:
Love seems to evade you.
- Your relationships are not fruitful.
- Intimacy makes you uncomfortable.
- You often feel suffocated in relationships.
- You are not one to miss poeple.
You mainly live in autopilot.
- You are successful but something is still missing.
- It’s hard for you to feel love.
- You have been described as mysterious.
- You do not experience the same emotions as others.
- Even in good company you feel lonely.
You cling to people.
- Being alone scares you.
- You have been described as needy.
- You feel desperate to hear from your significant other.
- You miss people quickly.
You are afraid of abandonment.
- You excessively worry about your relationships.
- You need to keep loved ones close at all times.
- Focus is difficult if you think someone is mad at you.
- When the “high” of a new relationship wears off, you think the relationship is over.